How to use Deliberate Thinking to Feel Better Now
Want to feel better now? It's possible through deliberate thinking – choosing what you focus on. First, decide that nothing is more important than feeling better. Next, approach yourself with the kindness and care you would to a dear friend. Using this strategy, you will play the deliberate thinking game in which you infuse what feels good by focusing on it, and diffuse what feels bad by gently shifting your focus away from it.
Soothe the thought: Gently question it. Is it really true? What would feel better to think? What if it weren't true? Do you know someone who thinks the opposite? Is it possible both viewpoints are valid, and it's your choice which to believe?
Give it a break for a while: Distract yourself. Change the subject if someone brings it up. Don't dwell on it, discuss it endlessly, or constantly try to solve it in your mind.
Move the energy: Physical activity can help shift your internal state. Try running, walking, cleaning, dancing, laughing, or jumping.
Surrender it: If it's overwhelming, ask for help. Surrender it to a higher power or someone you trust. Sometimes, we simply need to say, "I can't do this alone."
The first step in deliberate thinking is awareness. Check in with yourself: How are you feeling? This helps you understand the thoughts behind those feelings and identify habitual thought patterns. From there, you can choose to keep those thoughts or explore new, more positive ones.
Take time to examine your thoughts. Journaling can be helpful. Observe your thoughts without judgment—they are not you. Imagine yourself separate from them, viewing them objectively. When you notice a negative thought, gently question it, as described above. Pay attention to how you feel as you answer these questions. Relief often signals a more truthful thought. If questioning feels overwhelming, take a break. Sleep, hydrate, move your body, or distract yourself.
The real transformation happens when you deliberately choose and nurture positive thoughts. These new thoughts lead to new decisions, which create new results. You become the driver of your life, following your own inner guidance. This doesn't mean negative thoughts disappear, but with practice, you'll gain distance from them. You might even find yourself internally saying, "That's not true for me," when faced with negativity.
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