How Can I Trust Myself and My Decisions More
How to Trust Yourself: Building Inner Strength for Better Decision Making
Trusting yourself is essential for making decisions that feel good. Often, we're told that trust is a must, but in reality, it's a muscle—a MUSTle.
We're born trusting ourselves. We know when we're hungry, tired, or uncomfortable and we do something about it! (Usually we cry for our parents to help us!) We instinctively know what to do to feel better.
As we continue to experience life, we start to learn more of our preferences. What foods we like. What clothes we want to wear. What activities are fun. And, as children we usually voice these loudly and strongly.
But, if you've been told to not trust yourself and your preferences, you may lose your inner connection to trusting yourself. This can happen easily with parents and teachers who mean well but think they know best for you. You may start to trust others more than yourself.
If this is the case for you and you’re feeling disconnected from what you want and trusting yourself and your decisions, it may be time to strengthen your inner self- trust muscle.
First, speak to yourself kindly and in a trusting way
To rebuild this inner strength and trust in our decisions, start with kind and trusting inner self-talk. How we treat ourselves on the inside matters. If we are constantly telling ourselves we don’t know what to do and we can’t make good decisions, that will be reflected on the outside world. But, if we start to tell ourselves we do trust ourselves, it makes it easier to move forward in decisions which is the important step of building the trust muscle.
"I trust myself."
"I trust my decisions."
"I trust what I decide is right for me, right now."
"If I don't know what to choose, it may not be time to choose."
"I trust my inner knowing that I need more information before choosing."
"I trust my ability to gather more information."
"I trust I'll know when it's time to choose."
"If what I choose is no longer working, I trust myself to choose again."
Next, choose something and allow the unfolding to show you the results
This part will take some inner trust. You must choose something! More is lost in indecision than wrong decision and you must use your muscle of trusting yourself to start having it work well again! Will it work perfectly at first? No! But will it stretch and strengthen over continuous use? YES!
Lastly, Practice looking at contrast as clarification in desires
So, you chose something. And it didn’t turn out with a result you enjoyed. Now what? Look at this moment as clarification in your trust process. You now know with more clarity what you don’t want and more of what you do want. Use this moment to revisit the self talk, choose something different, and use whatever contrast that comes from the experience to re-clarify your preferences and desires.
In summary, be kind and patient with yourself in this process!
This three step process of positive self talk, choosing something, and then accepting contrast as clarity and continuing to keep moving forward is the way to build your inner trust muscle!
By cultivating self-trust and practicing mindful decision-making, you can strengthen your inner strength and make choices that align with your true self.
Remember, building trust takes time and patience. Be kind to yourself as you embark on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Through consistent practice, you'll develop a deep-rooted belief in your abilities and the confidence to navigate life's challenges with grace and resilience.